A MATTER OF PROBLEM SOLVING

Have you been haunted by your problems? Do you want to just disappear and get away from those difficult situations in your life? Well, problem will not be solved if you don’t face it. We have to deal with those hard times in our life. Here’s how.

    Realize that your difficult situation is all in how you perceive it. What may seem difficult now will not seem difficult later. What may seem difficult to you may not be difficult to others.

    Realize you have a choice in how you handle your difficult situations. You can choose to be positive or you can choose to be negative. Try to find the find the positive in every situation that life may bring.

    Be resourceful. Never give up or give in when faced with a challenge. Find out as much information as you can about your situation whether that means talking to someone who has been through it or looking it up in the yellow pages or on the internet to find resources to help you get through the situation.

    Deal with your emotions. In any and every situation that you encounter you will have emotional responses. Sometimes you may feel hurt, sad, disappointment, anger, frustration, shame or loneliness. You need to let yourself feel the emotions. Cry when you need to cry. Punch a pillow, yell, scream, roll around on the floor and have a temper tantrum. Let the emotions pass through you like a current and move on.

    Don't let the situation change you as person unless the change is positive. We all will find that difficult situations help us to grow as individuals. Don't let the situation make you blame other people and harbor resentment or damage your self esteem.

    Have a sense of humor and learn to laugh at your situation or mistakes no matter how bad they are. Laughter is like medicine and sometimes it can be contagious. Write a journal and record your feelings. Find a peaceful outlet such as a long walk, taking deep breaths, listening to your favorite music or watching a good movie.

    Always keep a good support system. The support system can consist of friends or family or simply a group of people that are going through the same difficult situation. Remember to surround yourself with love and love yourself no matter what situation occurs.

 

Keep in mind you are only human. Things don't always work out how we would like them to. Sometimes you are at fault, sometimes not, but it is important to keep in mind that you are doing everything to solve the problem, and for that you should not feel blame or shame. Give yourself credit for trying. It takes maturity and self-discipline to work on your problems.

Don't turn to drugs or alcohol if you can't solve your problem. These chemicals never solve the problem, and always cause the problem to be worse.

“How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself - so always think positively.”

  - Norman Vincent Peale